Downfalls of dating a married woman
You may realize that you have no claim legally or financially, but you would think there'd be an emotional attachment or bond between you and your lover.In fact there usually isn't after the affair is over. Even though he has a deep feeling of love for you, he is able to process it in an unemotional way.Her close circle of friends might know about her affair, but she really cannot let anyone else, such as colleagues or her family, know.She is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together.Whether it is because of all the legal and financial problems attached to divorce, religious beliefs or the fact that they have become comfortable with their marriage the way it is -- or even because they still have a certain affection for their wives, men rarely end up with the other woman.Even Katharine Hepburn knew, and accepted, this fact during her long affair with Spencer Tracy.
Legally, financially and emotionally, you have no claim.Don't always be so ready to cancel plans you have made with others to accommodate him. It allows you to see yourself through the eyes of another man who finds you interesting and attractive. It helps to remember that the man with whom you are intimately involved in "your other life" is not living as a monk with his wife.